Parmesan Asparagus Spears, and Allowing All the Good Stuff to Adhere Instead

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Allowing the positive stuff in life to stick to us rather than negative makes things more delicious, kinda like the crispy and delectable coating that adheres to these scrumptious little Parmesan Asparagus Spears!

Living in a big city like Los Angeles, with its crowded streets and its a-bit-too-close-for-comfort living style (aka, tiny properties and beaucoup apartments), it’s all too easy to be frequently subjected to the not-so-brilliantly-sparkly-and-beautiful aspects of humanity.

Know what I mean?

There never seems to be a shortage of rude behavior, thoughtlessness, apathy, and just general unkindness to witness, all of which can add up over time and stick to the psyche like gum sticks to a shoe.

And I don’t know about you, but I don’t like it much when gum sticks to my shoe.

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It can be tough to shake off the not-so-positive experiences that one has during the course of any given day, as those color ones mood, outlook, attitude, and even general well-being.

And if left uncontemplated and unchecked, they can even begin to slowly chip away at a person, bringing them down into perpetual frustration, and into a generally negative outlook.

And who wants that?

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That’s no way to go about experiencing day to day life, that’s for certain.

I’ve noticed that for some reason, it seems somehow easier for us to allow the negative to inform us, more so than the positive.

Have you ever noticed how a criticism or unfriendly exchange will stick in the thoughts much longer, often playing itself over and over again in the mind, almost as if on a loop?

Absolutely draining.

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So what if we actively began seeking out and trying to find the good stuff that can happen in a day?

What if we allowed all of the little positives—the little smiles, the little friendly “hellos”, the moments of kindness, the little compliments, and the kind little gestures—to stick to us and sink deep into our being-ness instead?

What if we took to heart more the sweet side of the day, the vibrant side, and allowed for that to adhere to us, discarding the other?

If the negative is like gum sticking to the bottom of a shoe, then I’ll liken the positive to the crispy, savory, parmesan coating that sticks to a crisp, green asparagus stalk that’s then plunged into a lemony aioli—these parmesan asparagus spears are a delicious something we can be uplifted and nourished by!


Just the other day, a friend said, “I try to look for the ‘ornament’ in each day.”

What a wonderful thing!

That when there is negativity, or when circumstances are challenging, look for a thing of beauty in that day, and be affected by it.

And when you can’t seem to find that thing that shines and glimmers, then be that thing—be the “ornament” yourself.

I love that!


What a much more pleasant, beautiful, awe-inspiring, and amazing life each one of us could live if we allowed the good things to adhere to us, and to become one with our being.

The more we become conscious of letting those things of a negative nature fall off and drift away from us, the better off we’ll be.

So what do you say that we savor the crispy and delicious parmesan crust, and try to avoid the gum-on-shoe as much as we possibly can?

Taste what’s good and pass it on.


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  • Sabrina July 4, 2015, 9:03 am


  • Vanessa November 24, 2015, 8:22 am

    Was feeling a bit sad today with hurt feelings and so I was on a hunt for an asparagus recipe because nothing makes me feel better than cooking for my family. Thank you for the recipe but most of all thanks for the words of advice. I needed them more than the recipe today.

    • The Cozy Apron November 24, 2015, 11:21 am

      Hi Vanessa, your comment really made my morning—thank you for sharing such personal sentiments! It’s uncanny how we can be led, if we’re open, to the words we so desperately need to hear, exactly when we need them. The recipe, in this case, ends up being the bonus, doesn’t it? So glad you could be a little uplifted, and, perhaps, nourished both spiritually & physically. :-)

      • Vanessa November 30, 2015, 5:52 pm

        Yes, most definitely feel like I was led to read those words. I’m feeling blessed after having a wonderful Thanksgiving with my family all home. And thanks again. The asparagus was yummy. Even my hubby ate them and he is not a fan of asparagus.

  • Liz S January 10, 2016, 1:55 pm


    This recipe sounds delicious and fun! Question on the aioli. Do you add raw garlic or saute it first?


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